Sometimes, we know the least about those we love the most.
It took less than an hour for an old life to end and a new one to begin. When Virginia DeLuca's sixty-year-old husband abruptly walked out on their serene and happy-even joyful-marriage, proclaiming a sudden desire to have babies, everyone had a theory. He already knocked someone up. Nervous breakdown. Brain tumor.
After DeLuca met her husband, she learned that it was possible for her to love with abandon and entwine her life with this caring and compassionate man. But fourteen years later, she was only left with the mystery of the ending.
DeLuca, a psychotherapist, spent decades helping clients cope with sudden losses and dramatic changes-and now it's happened to her. Now, she must hunt to find the truth of her own story.
In the tradition of Maybe You Should Talk to Someone by Lori Gottlieb, If You Must Go, I Wish You Triplets is an unflinching exploration of love and relationships from a woman who ultimately found that life can expand in unanticipated ways. Prologue
Chapter 1
Chapter 2
Chapter 3
Chapter 4
Chapter 5
Chapter 6
Chapter 7
Chapter 8
Chapter 9
Chapter 10
Chapter 11
Chapter 12
Chapter 13
Chapter 14
Chapter 15
Chapter 16
Chapter 17
Chapter 18
Chapter 19
Chapter 20
Chapter 21
Chapter 22
Chapter 23
Chapter 24
Chapter 25
Chapter 26
Chapter 37
Chapter 28
Chapter 29
Chapter 30
Chapter 31
Chapter 32
Chapter 33
Chapter 34
Chapter 35
Chapter 36
Chapter 37
Chapter 38
Chapter 39
Chapter 40
Chapter 41
Chapter 42
Chapter 43
Chapter 44
Chapter 45
Chapter 46
Epilogue
Acknowledgments
"What a fantastic book…like reading a mystery, racing to see what happens…and then finding clarity and the triumph of the ending."
"It's strangely heartwarming to realize that even sexagenarians can be this chaotic."
"DeLuca's memoir blends brilliance, raw emotion, humor, and extraordinary insight, examining with crystalline honesty how a spouse can blindside a profoundly loving and committed partner."
"This intimate, vulnerable memoir is an absolute pleasure to read, by turns hilarious, frank, and full of wisdom, making it difficult to put down."
"One of the most honest, raw, and satisfying memoirs I have read. Deluca's fierce, self-searching humor, and willingness to share the rollercoaster ride left me breathless, grateful for every page."
"A testament to the vital force that is radical self-love, particularly later in life…Compassionate, deeply moving, and evocative prose."
