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A sweeping and empathetic portrait of the new gender divide, from a leading pollster and cultural commentator-with key insights into what it means for the future of relationships, family life, and democracy
In Uncoupled, Daniel Cox, a leading researcher on American public life, investigates the exponential and alarming distance-political, romantic, and social-between young men and women in America. Drawing on years of original research, wide-ranging interviews, and viral public writing, Cox traces how Gen Z men and women are drifting apart-on campus, in dating culture, and across the political spectrum. Women are more empowered, ambitious, and vocal than ever before, while men face growing uncertainty about their roles, identity, and place in modern society. What emerges is a generation caught between rapid progress and deepening mistrust.
From the fallout of the "Me Too" movement and the loneliness crisis, to hookup culture, online harassment, and the illusion of endless choice, Uncoupled explores how young adults have come to fear each other as much as they desire connection. Cox unpacks how family life, gender roles, and romantic norms have been reshaped by digital culture and overstructured childhoods-and why the breakdown of cross-gender friendships has only made things worse. Along the way, he introduces readers to the young people behind the statistics: anxious, avoidant, and often deeply alone.
But this isn't just a story of what's broken-it's a call for a cultural reset. With rigor, compassion, and a refusal to take easy sides, Uncoupled challenges political orthodoxy and media narratives alike. If we want to rebuild trust-between men and women, between left and right, and across generational lines-we must understand how we got here. This is the definitive book for anyone trying to make sense of a generation shaped by freedom, fractured by fear, and still longing to connect. Daniel A. Cox is the director of the Survey Center on American Life and a senior fellow in polling and public opinion at the American Enterprise Institute (AEI). Under his leadership, the center is focused on public opinion and survey research on a variety of topics, including the emerging gender divide among young adults, dating and relationships, and social connection. He lives in Washington D.C. with his wife and two sons. He is an unapologetic fan of Chelsea F.C.
In Uncoupled, Daniel Cox, a leading researcher on American public life, investigates the exponential and alarming distance-political, romantic, and social-between young men and women in America. Drawing on years of original research, wide-ranging interviews, and viral public writing, Cox traces how Gen Z men and women are drifting apart-on campus, in dating culture, and across the political spectrum. Women are more empowered, ambitious, and vocal than ever before, while men face growing uncertainty about their roles, identity, and place in modern society. What emerges is a generation caught between rapid progress and deepening mistrust.
From the fallout of the "Me Too" movement and the loneliness crisis, to hookup culture, online harassment, and the illusion of endless choice, Uncoupled explores how young adults have come to fear each other as much as they desire connection. Cox unpacks how family life, gender roles, and romantic norms have been reshaped by digital culture and overstructured childhoods-and why the breakdown of cross-gender friendships has only made things worse. Along the way, he introduces readers to the young people behind the statistics: anxious, avoidant, and often deeply alone.
But this isn't just a story of what's broken-it's a call for a cultural reset. With rigor, compassion, and a refusal to take easy sides, Uncoupled challenges political orthodoxy and media narratives alike. If we want to rebuild trust-between men and women, between left and right, and across generational lines-we must understand how we got here. This is the definitive book for anyone trying to make sense of a generation shaped by freedom, fractured by fear, and still longing to connect. Daniel A. Cox is the director of the Survey Center on American Life and a senior fellow in polling and public opinion at the American Enterprise Institute (AEI). Under his leadership, the center is focused on public opinion and survey research on a variety of topics, including the emerging gender divide among young adults, dating and relationships, and social connection. He lives in Washington D.C. with his wife and two sons. He is an unapologetic fan of Chelsea F.C.