If you have been injured by a significant other's betrayal, use the tools described in this book to determine the options you have, interrupt triggers, calm down your stress levels, and become clear on what you can request.
Your greatest wounding is to believe that nothing that you experienced with your significant other was real. You experience an out-of-the-blue grief response to the sudden loss of what you thought was your life. At some point, you need to mourn the relationship you thought you had. Reactions such as anger, sadness, numbness or craving to go out and cheat yourself show the humongous loss. The betrayal wound causes you to no longer trust your significant other and yourself.
You have many questions: Was my relationship with the one who betrayed me an illusion? What's my sense of reality that I did not see the dual life of the one who betrayed me sooner? How could I have entrusted myself and my family to a person I did not know? What if I encounter the same triggers over-and-over again? Does it mean that I am not healing?
You have been wounded on so many levels. At the same time, betrayal trauma is not your fault.
